Introspection Into Your Dating Insight

I was asked “Why have you dated the men you did in the past?”

I stood there for a second and thought deeply about the question.

I could have become defensive – “Well why did you choose to date the people YOU did in your past?!”

I could have said “I don't know”.

I could have ignored it and continued our conversation,

But I thought deeply about an answer.

Not just a response. Or a reply.

But an authentic, genuine answer.

I said “I think, it was because all my life I’ve been trying to fix myself, and by dating the people I chose to, I was seeking an answer on how to fix myself all along. “

For whatever reason, the question weighed on me.

And it wasn’t because I was upset with the question,

But I don’t think I answered honestly…

I dated the people I chose because I enjoy helping people and I saw potential in them they didn’t see within themselves. I wanted to raise their self-awareness, self-esteem, and their potential. However, each and every time I failed.

Why?

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Because it wasn’t MY job.

It was theirs.

My own self awareness grew that day.

I realized…

I enjoy fixing things.

I enjoy finding solutions to problems.

I enjoy when things are working just fine and finding ways to make them work better.

I enjoy watching people grow.

I enjoy watching people come alive.

I enjoy watching people realizing their potential.

I enjoy watching people reach their potential.

In the end, I dated people not because I simply chose to, but because I saw an enormous amount of potential in each and every single person.

So, I leave you with this little diddy:

It’s wonderful to see potential in others, and wanting to help them through the tough stuff, but honestly, it’s not your responsibility to get them through it. It’s their responsibility.

You know what you CAN do?

You know that potential you see in others?

Turn that inwards.

See the potential within yourself.

Be FOCUSED, be selective, be open, be aware, but be free.

People need you as much as you need them.

Find your light, shine bright and keep on shining.

You’re guiding others without even knowing it.

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The best part of this… it’s not limited to intimate relationships. It’s open to friendships, family, coworkers, whatever relationship dynamic you can adhere this to.

Keep on shining!